January 29, 2023

Dear Manang,
I am not conservative but rather more liberated than I think. Recently, I heard about the success of some of my friends in having babies through artificial insemination. I do not think I have time to look for a husband and would like to shop for a sperm donor with gray eyes, tall, high IQ, and is German. I wonder if I can also be assured of the sex of the child, I want a daughter. What do you think about this?
Geri of Fil-Am, Baguio City

Dear Geri,
I am a free thinker. I believe that you have a choice to do what you want to do in your life. Having a child by choice and even by specific qualities and characteristics is the marvel of modern science. So long as you will love your child, how can it be wrong? What you need to ensure are the emotional and support needs of your child. Make sure that the baby will have enough models of both male and female to ensure the support she will need to be well-rounded.
God be with you,
Manang

Dear Manang,
My husband filed for the annulment of our marriage because he needs it after we broke up four years ago. I have an 11-year-old daughter and a nine-year-old son. He wants custody of the children but I do not think I can trust him with their care because he has too many women and if I allow the cause of the annulment to be my psychological incapacity, I might lose custody because that is a ground for it. I want to fight but that will cost money that I do not have. What can I do?
Bashang of Holy Ghost, Baguio City

Dear Bashang,
It is a grave injustice to just allow yourself to be judged as psychologically incapacitated for the grant of annulment in a bad marriage. It is difficult indeed to give in to that but this is the only reason for the court to grant the severance of the union. However, I still trust the court because children still belong to the care of the mother. If you are working, you will still get the right because you will be able to fend for them.
Be strong,
Manang