April 18, 2024

Dear Manang,
There are certain friends that you like so much and enjoy being around. You get accustomed to the presence that when he is absent or away, life is incomplete. This feeling that I have is now feeling like love. Does it make sense to turn it into love?
Elina of Dontogan, Baguio City

Dear Elina,
Platonic love has no sexual desires. It is pure love that one feels for a brother or sister. Togetherness is present in many friendships that last a lifetime, maybe beyond this life if we believe in karma and reincarnations. I guess that if we simplify your feelings now, if you have no sexual desires on him, it will remain a friendship above ordinary elements. How precious this friendship is, hold on to it and not ruin it by desire or lust.
Just be,
Manang

Dear Manang,
My chest is bursting with resentment because my boyfriend isn’t paying attention to me. I am seething with jealousy in everything that happens. The other night, his daughter called and asked about the date of his marriage to the mother. I went crazy and started crying and all the hurts came back to me and out of my lips. This has happened again and I am tired of it. I want to leave but I have no means to travel because of the restrictions imposed under the general community quarantine. I am hurting so bad in the silent space.
Ramela of Mirador Hill, Baguio City

Dear Ramela,
Jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins. This green-eyed monster has no rhyme or reason, no calm, no purpose but to kill. Funny but we want to kill the person who caused it but not the person that we love. I am glad the daughter was far away from your reach, I can’t imagine what would have happened if she was in the same room. We have choices in life to avoid the pain of jealousy. The choice is ours. Love really hurts. Its pleasure is momentary and often fleeting. I still vote on dwelling on the positive side of love and not the hurt. Sometimes we hurt on the wrong things. Leave if you have had your fill of a relationship unworthy of your care. Resolve to end your misery. But don’t wait for him to be as miserable as you; it might not happen. For now, until June 15 when the community quarantine ends, make the remaining days pleasant for your sake.
Be resolute,
Manang