February 23, 2024

Dear Manang,
I am single again after getting my annulment. However, it seems like everyone is meddling with my life. I have suitors and have introduced them to my mother. But she seems to have chosen the man she wants me to marry but I don’t like him. He isn’t my type. I’m getting an earful daily and it’s getting annoying. I told her that I am not ready yet and she insists that this is a chance that might never happen again. How can I get my mother to stop nagging?
Simona of Naguilian Road, Baguio City

Dear Simona,
I can imagine your situation. Parents are well-meaning; they think they are the authority in all aspects of life. She will just insist on what she wants so I guess you will have to pretend to agree with her in the meantime. Remind her that you’re thinking about it seriously but your previously failed marriage is lesson learned not to rush. Assure her that he is in the lead for suitors in consideration, and not to fear. I hope she does not sell you out before you know it. Keep her assured that you hold her opinion about your life in high regard, don’t displease her or you won’t hear the end of it.
Chill,
Manang

Dear Manang,
I know we can’t stop people from falling in love but can we tell people that they are forgetting many things in the process? The saying, “stupid in love”, holds much water. But this love can be dangerous when it leaves a lot of things amiss, particularly where work duties are concerned. A few days would be fine but weeks and months can be punishing. Is it good to be straightforward? Should we say it from the shoulder?
Marina of Lucnab, Baguio City

Dear Marina,
If work productivity is affected, then something must be said. If there is neglect and the workflow is no longer smooth, then people are affected and attention must be called to it. It’s not a sin to be involved with someone but your love-struck Romeo must snap out of it or his attention called about his forgetfulness or should we say his daydreaming. Congratulate him but say that it is business as usual.
Remind him graciously,
Manang