Jealousy and envy
Do you experience jealousy sometimes without knowing why? I feel a dislike for a person but do not know why. It’s as if she is after my husband or there is an affair going on. I don’t understand it but call it female intuition. I have no evidence to it, should I snoop?
Magda of Victoria Village, Baguio City
Female intuition is seldom wrong when you love your husband. Are you prepared for the answer that you will get when you snoop? Do you know what you will do once you confirm it? Without evidence you cannot confront your husband. When it is confirmed, are you going to leave him or slug it out? Those are questions you must be ready to answer before going into battle and at the same time what are you prepared to do? Give it some time.
I am competitive in everything. I do not wonder if I become the object of nasty talk and criticism. I just wish that they would take the opportunity to know me better. Recently, I led the team to win in the office but mostly, it was my effort. Do I need to learn teamwork or such? I find it a waste of time.
Gladys of San Vicente, Baguio City
You are not alone. There are many people who are the focus of envy, that’s human nature. We project what we lack in others but in a negative way. It also dampens the spirit of a group. We tend to polarize and take sides. But indeed, you need to learn teamwork because you get a lot more accomplished. Have you tried to make friends with them? Try eating your pride a little. Sometimes food can make a difference. Treat them to snacks or bring snacks.