January 29, 2023

Dear Manang,
There is much truth to the saying that spoken words can never be taken back. Recently, I heard someone say hurtful words to someone because she was annoyed. We all know that our friend is someone who has her moments of insanity. She has her own ways of thinking and doing things. She may seem to do nothing for the other friend but I feel their relationship is different from the others she surrounds herself with. But what was said was said and cannot be taken back. But I still want to help iron things out.
Penny of Guisad, Baguio City

Dear Penny,
Like the story of the broken jar that is put together by glue, there will always be a nick left and the jar will never be restored to its former shape. That is often why we need to think about what we are about to say before saying it. When you are angry, it is best to zip it up until you calm down before you speak because words can hurt feelings that will never be healed. Well, only the apology of the person who said the miserable words can help. If you can convince the person who hurt the other to say sorry, all you can do is mind your own business.
Say sorry is best,
Manang

Dear Manang,
I am being backstabbed by someone who I treated as a friend for so long. I realized that when she told me she was not joining the club anymore because she had no money, I was taken aback because she didn’t even give me fair warning. I announced this to the others. She told me she was having financial problems but didn’t mention this to protect her. Later on, she kept coming anyway and pretended there was nothing wrong. She has been spending and making a fool of me for believing in what she said and telling the others. Am I wrong in feeling that I have been betrayed?
Angelina of Outlook Drive, Baguio City

Dear Angelina,
Men are complicated. I would also suspect that something is about to happen. It will not be for your good or she is inclined to take your position. But I believe in karma and these things catch up with people. It is best that you keep your cool and just don’t mind it. Let it be but also play along and not say anything bad.
Stay calm,
Manang.