September 28, 2023

Dear Manang,
I don’t like my nose. Why did this Asian race of ours need to have flat noses or flared nostrils? I feel that I could have a better chance at getting a job if my nose was a little finer or narrower? What do you think about a nose lift? I also want to have my eyes made deep set. My eyes are bulging out a little and I have a friend who had her eyes altered by a mere slit. I want my eyelids to look like they have a fold. I have been saving up for it. Should I?
Taylor of Asin Road, Baguio City

Dear Taylor,
I believe that God gives us our features for a reason. I also believe that they are proportioned perfectly, the way they are. But sometimes, as you say, you get better chances at a job if we feel more confident. Yes I agree, and we can get the jobs we want. But let me caution you because not all the time does a face alteration look good. The nose jobs do not always fit the face so I hope that you study it carefully. I have seen some eye jobs and I think I would endorse that more because they do look good. I support things that can make you feel good but I pray you give it a very serious thought. Sometimes confidence comes from accepting what you are and taking pride in it. You cannot redo what has been altered so be careful.
Be proud of yourself,

Dear Manang,
Do you experience the same irritation when you hear a certain pitch of voice or a kind of laughter? I don’t know what it is that brings out the annoyance, but there is a woman’s laughter that I can’t stand. She is a very good person but when she laughs, which is often, I want to climb the wall. What do you think it is?
Irman of Gladiola St., Baguio City

Dear Irman,
Allow me to use my little experience in Psychology for your case. All of us go through life with various experiences. The experiences give us a like or dislike for certain things in our surroundings. Maybe you had a babysitter or an aunt who had the same laughter. Maybe that person was mean to you or pinched you. That pain will make the lasting bad experience that it is associated with. Unless you find that person who did you wrong in your childhood and set a pleasant experience to replace it, you will not get to understand why you feel that way. Search your memory too who you link the laughter to and I am sure you will find the source of the annoying laughter. You don’t need to climb the wall.
Make pleasant memories,