March 24, 2023

Dear Manang,
It’s funny that we never really discover the root of anger until we are able to vent. The expression of one’s opinion or feelings is such a marvelous psychological cure. I kept my annoyance in and refused to speak about it because it is unethical to speak ill of others, my Catholic upbringing ingrained in me. Only after I expressed my anger did I discover that I directed my anger at the wrong people and should apologize.
Tina of Happy Hallow, Baguio City

Dear Tina,
Did you know that the best cure for anyone who is sad, angry, abused or jealous is to express it? However, I wish we could just talk to ourselves to process our feelings. This venting is best only with another person just listening to our woes. To some it is the quick fix but to many it takes a long journey. I would agree that you must go and apologize to the people who got the brunt of your nastiness.
Please say sorry,

Dear Manang,
I am so angry at people who think they know your life better than you. I heard that someone said that my husband left me. This is far from the truth because we are physically apart but this is for his health reasons. Or am I being defensive about the downturns of my life? I could be with him but I haven’t made up my mind yet. Should I confront the wags?
Darna of St. Joseph Village, Baguio City

Dear Darna,
You’re already a superhero. What’s surprising about the people who know your life better than you? It’s damaging only when they pit you against someone else in an imaginary drama. That’s when it will be dreadful and far from the truth. As you said, you have a Pandora’s box that may open if you confront them. Go plant some succulents. Don’t waste your tears.
Live and let live,